Love Love Love
It's Valentine's Day, so naturally everyone is thinking about love... and flowers, chocolates, stuffed bears with hearts on them and romantic dates. It's a weird day for me, it has been for some time. But last year was the first year I was able to celebrate it, without it feeling off.
My boyfriend was deployed at the time, he'd been deployed for six months. And he was surprised to hear that I didn't enjoy Valentine's Day. And he wanted to change the day for me.
I awoke last year on this day to the doorbell ringing, I climbed down to the first floor of my apartment building, groggy, hair a mess, literally just stumbled out of bed and was surprised to see a man standing there. He asked me if my name was Anna Sandacz and I said, "Yes?" confused.
Then he handed me a golden bouquet. It was brilliant and beautiful. It was February 14th and somehow, somewhere, these daffodils had bloomed. They were radiant and I felt so special to be given the first flowers of spring. I went back upstairs and sat on the floor of my apartment and read the note attached to the flowers. My boyfriend had sent me daffodils because the poem he always recited to me was about daffodils. I cried and then I read his note and cried some more.
He had managed to change February 14th for me.
His gesture was so unexpected and loving, and for me it changed our relationship, it made it suddenly more serious. The fact that he had sent me flowers, and not roses, but daffodils.
It's one of the sweetest memories I have from our first year of dating long-distance. And I cherish it.
Today was our first Valentine's day together (and married), he woke me up and we made breakfast together and sang along to some of our favorite songs. And I oddly remembered how I had told my friends and family three years ago that I'm not going to marry anyone unless they propose to me in a field full of flowers or give me a thousand flowers.
And I shared this with my husband and he smiled and said, "Isn't it funny how it really happened?" We both shared a smile and then I realized how we all have crazy expectations that the world, society, the media, chick flicks even Disney movies tell us.
But for me, our proposal is so special, because it was a surprise, because it was so genuine, because it's ours... but that's another story, for another day.